Topic: Military Singles

[Steve]

buell gym .. WASAGA BEACH (its awesome), going into Barrie for the bars/clubs, the O club..

Look there are a lot of stuff you can do if you look around, but wasaga is definately a big plus

[camochick]

   Don't want to offend, but i really think that it's silly only to date a man based on what he does for a living. Why rule out someone who could be a good match just because he is not in the service? You are limiting your options significantly especially since you say that you don't have many options for military men in your area. I say give the civilians a chance too, you never know who you are going to meet.

[NavComm]

Well you go then!   Show these guys how to do it right! LOL   Mine is 16 years old now... I have devoted quite a few years to my son.. I love him very much.   Now I seek something for me and me alone.   That may sound a bit selfish, but we all need something for ourselves at some point!

You sought a career.. and now I'm seeking a life partner who understands a bit about struggle and how to persevere through tough times.   Maybe that is one of the qualities I'm looking for. Someone who knows how to actually work through the tough times to achieve their goals and dreams.....I know my ex knew how to do that. They don't give up very easily and do have a staying power, as long as all the ingredients are there to begin with!

Lace

Thanks I think you really are on to something here. I think you will make this happen and that is great! I completely understand doing for yourself and I applaud you for it. We can't really be good parents if we aren't happy within ourselves and each person decides what that personal happiness is. I know my original post was a bit tongue in cheek but I think you understand it was a 'conversation starter'. Now you're invited to Brandon! Whoooo hoooo I might just join you there! Sounds like good times are a rollin!

Fry...as Steve says...Wasaga Beach for the younger people was fine...me, I went to Barrie and relaxed after one weekend at Wasaga I knew it wasn't my bag but plenty of fun was had there I'm sure You'll find out once you get there! Oh and beware taxi drivers who want you to pay a return fare...there's a reason they aren't welcome in Wasaga Beach

[NavComm]

camo she's dead set on a military man, I see where you're going with this and you know you just have to let people be people sometimes.Personally, of the men I've met in my short military career, I wouldn't hook them up with my worst enemy but to each their own.

[lacedtia]

  Don't want to offend, but i really think that it's silly only to date a man based on what he does for a living. Why rule out someone who could be a good match just because he is not in the service? You are limiting your options significantly especially since you say that you don't have many options for military men in your area. I say give the civilians a chance too, you never know who you are going to meet.

Good point!   But I am 38, For about 10 of those years I did date civvies. It seems to me they are the ones with negative baggage and looking for woman to blame or take their problems out on. I was made to feel as though I was beneath them, being a single parent, alone, and struggling. The 2 longest term relationships I have had in my life were with Military men.   They treated me with respect, honour and never once was I made to feel beneath them in any shape or form.   It's like I stated earlier, men in the military have a unique personality that is separate from the men out in civvi land.   They know their values. They know how to respect. They know how to treat you with dignity and are mostly, not afraid to show it.

Now, I had my questions about all this stuff before.. It is something within me that says that is the type of person I want to spend the rest of my life with.

Does that make any sense?
Lace

[Savage_Tactical]

as long as I can get to a bar/pub/club that has decent booze prices and great people, I'll be happy :p

[lacedtia]

Thanks I think you really are on to something here. I think you will make this happen and that is great! I completely understand doing for yourself and I applaud you for it. We can't really be good parents if we aren't happy within ourselves and each person decides what that personal happiness is. I know my original post was a bit tongue in cheek but I think you understand it was a 'conversation starter'. Now you're invited to Brandon! Whoooo hoooo I might just join you there! Sounds like good times are a rollin!

Yes!  I knew what you are all about.  Don't worry about it!  You need someone new every now and then just to spice things up a bit.  Otherwise what a boring world this would be! 

[NavComm]

as long as I can get to a bar/pub/club that has decent booze prices and great people, I'll be happy :p

OK reality check: You can get to a bar about week 4 if your unit did all the right things. That bar will most likely be in Wasaga Beach. Expect to go without all the comforts of home/life-as-you-know-it for at least 4 weeks. It's not all bad. In fact, it's good. It's hard and it's stupid and it makes no sense, but it's what you want. It's what you signed up for. Play the game and get through it. There's plenty of fun and drinking to be had AFTER basic. It's 8 weeks of your life. I realize when you're 20 something that seems like a long time, but in the big scheme of things, it's nothing. Do you want this or do you have to have 'fun'? You'd better redefine 'fun'.

[lacedtia]

OK all!  Seems as though my computer is going to clonk out on me here for the night!  It was very nice to have met you all!  If I have upset anyone... I apologize.  I am looking forward to coming back soon to check out some more of this site. Very interesting in here..  Loving the different view points.. Gives me a chance to voice some of my opinions on relationships..

Take care and Stay Safe!
Lace

[garb811]

as long as I can get to a bar/pub/club that has decent booze prices and great people, I'll be happy :p

For that my friend, I would heartily recommend the Hug and Slug.  You've never been to Borden until you've been bagged and tagged by one of the ladies with great big, uh, hearts who frequent that fine establishment.  Please note that this is not the proper name of the venue, as we don't want the secret getting out, but if you ask your instructors, they'll be more than happy to provide you with directions.

[Savage_Tactical]

Haha, I know... I'll be lucky if we get out to a club or a pub...

8weeks? thought it was 10? oh well, it's all good... Hug and Slug? I'll keep that in mind :p

[marlene]

Hobbies I love and volunteer work has always worked for me which is exactly why I'm on this thread today. I just moved to Toronto and need to get involved, make some friends etc. In Vancouver I did some volunteer work for mililtary family services helping people with their running programs, taking people mountain biking etc. Toronto seems to be a different climate though - any suggestions? I'd love to get involved in anything to do with sports - running, climbing, skate skiing, mountain biking, adventure racing - helping with sporting events, helping with cadets and camping trips, training?  I will get in touch with military family services and cadets but ALL suggestions are welcome. (p.s. used to work as an outdoor guide, fitness expert, mountain bike coach in van but Toronto is sooooo different (not looking for work just wanna VOLUNTEER doing the things I love to do for the millitary).

merlane

[NavComm]

Merlane I'm dissappointed that someone with your interests has left Vancouver! Where were you when I was begging people if they wanted to go hiking in Chilliwack?

I wish you the best of luck in Toronto. I don't know much about TO, only been in the airport a few times. You are fairly close to Borden though and there are a lot of military people there! You might want to take a drive there and hook up with some people at the gym.

[lacedtia]

Lace, good reply! I too have a special needs child so I know how that goes. I think you might be onto somethng here! How close are you to that isolated guy in Alberta? Do you hike? Are you a member of the Alpine Club?

If this all works out I want to be referred to as "She who hooked up those two ships in the night...." no money please, just send referrals

You know Nav?  Good idea!     Well, email and phones are alot of fun now!    Where do you want referrals sent out to?   

Nav!  I salute you !   

Take Care and Stay Safe
Lace

[NavComm]

now I'm not sure if you're mocking me lol but in case you're not just text me here

[lacedtia]

No mocking.. Me and redneck been chatitng it up!  He's cute and nice..  I'm serious..  You had a great thought and I did it! 

IT WAS WORTH IT! 

[NavComm]

  way to go! You better both join the Alpine Club!

[lacedtia]

LOL!  No Alpine Club here unfortunately!  But hey..  I really gotta run now.. got a phone call to make 

[OREO]

I would just like to say that I am impressed that you would notice those three things.  I am not a very judgemental woman, but I will admit that the first thing I look at when I see a man, is his footwear, and then, yes, to see if he is wearing a belt.  The watch to is a part of it, but not really as big a part for me.  The next thing I will look at is his hair cut.  Given that military memebers are supposed to keep it above the ears and off the collar, does not mean that a person takes pride in their hair and the way it loosk.  I think if a man takes the time to do something with his hair before leaving the house speaks to his character.

Always
M

[Della]

Redneck ... if it makes you feel any better, I'm in exactly the same position .... except I dont have the same "excuses" that you do.   I think the older you get the harder it is to find someone.

oh ... and be very careful of those internet dating sites & chat rooms ..... if it wasnt for those types of sites, I'd probably still be married (remember, if you're not looking someone in the eye, the may not be telling the entire truth)

I'd love to offer some wondeful advice, but unfortunately I have absolutely no ideas .... I've just learned to keep busy, and have gotten into some wonderful volunteer work.

good luck !!

[Redneck Trucker]

     I guess it boils down to that old line from the 60's:  "If'n the Army wanted ya to have a wife, they'da issued you one!"

     BTW, the buffalo here are starting to look good... need a step ladder but the darn critters won't stand still!   

[AoD71]

...WASAGA BEACH (its awesome)...
...Look there are a lot of stuff you can do if you look around, but wasaga is definately a big plus...

For sure! I live here, and its a great place to be when long weekends/vacations come around. But I'm gonna let all of you guys on a little secret! If you are looking to meet someone, take up skiing!! I don't know if there are places to ski where you live, but there are atleast 4 or 5 within short driving distance of my place. Skiing is great for meeting people if you are alone because you're always sitting with different people on the lift (unless of course you meet someone that day  ). People who ski/snowboard are generally fun and exciting, plus you already have something in common! I am usually able to strike up a conversation, even though I am shy around people I don't know because its easy when you are sitting with a person alone for a few minutes. If you are having trouble, start with "It's a great day on the hill, don't you think?" or "Do you come up here often?" or even "Are you from out-of-town?". You should go one better and pick up a pair of Snowblades. YES! Those short, awesome looking skis. They are fun and people ask me about them 80% of the time right off-the-bat. A great topic starter - they'll usually ask me things like "Are they fun?" and they see you as an adventurous person who likes to try new things. Romantic moments are not uncommon up on the hill, especially during the night. But you just have to make sure you don't have boogers running down your nose, cuz its hard to tell when your face is numb from the cold!! (NOT speaking from personal experience  )

I hope my advice helps you guys out. Good luck on the hunt!