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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #75 on: August 07, 2007, 13:02:29 »
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #76 on: August 07, 2007, 13:06:05 »
Here is their web link.......

Montreal:
http://www.crfmmontreal.org/francais/info_f.asp

Valcartier:
http://www.crfmv.com/

Good luck - let me know if this is / isn't quite what you were looking for.
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #77 on: August 07, 2007, 16:56:27 »
Quote from: geo on August 07, 2007, 13:06:05
Here is their web link.......

Montreal:
http://www.crfmmontreal.org/francais/info_f.asp

Valcartier:
http://www.crfmv.com/

Good luck - let me know if this is / isn't quite what you were looking for.

Those seem to be the Montreal offices...
anything for Ontario?
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #78 on: August 07, 2007, 18:02:52 »
Quote from: jq0342 on August 07, 2007, 16:56:27
Those seem to be the Montreal offices...
anything for Ontario?

Try the one Mr. Harding posted.  It gives you links to all of them across Canada.

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Go here:
http://www.forces.gc.ca/site/family/CFFR-7_e.asp
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #79 on: October 07, 2007, 11:47:22 »
 Hello everyone, thank you for starting this forum. I have read many of the posts trying to find someone in my same situation as I , but have not.  You see I am a U.S. citizen and my better half is Canadian. Not unusual but here is what is different. He is CF and is due to be deployed to Afganhistan. I still live in the U.S. My career does not afford me to live in Canada (yes, I tried and loved living there, however I could not find employment in my field so I moved back so I would not loose my skills)

We do communicate daily and I am there every chance I get. I have a lot of questions that I have asked him, however, I still have a whole lot more. I don't want to cause him any more stress that pre-deployment/deployment creates, so I will be asking all of you.

One question is. How do I send things to him from outside Canada? I know the central post for all mail is in Bellville, but does it work the same way?

Also, I can not participate in family support because I'm not physically there. By this I mean the support groups, coffeetimes, offering assistance to others ...etc...this I feel badly about.  One suggestion he gave me was to go to the local military base here ( I live near two of them) and participate there...well that would be great and this is what happened when I called, after I got the "great to meet you welcome" things..."Oh he's Canadian military? Well you have to participate there"...so I feel like I'm between a rock and a ......rock....

Thanks for any suggestion(s)

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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #80 on: October 07, 2007, 11:50:35 »
I meant to add he is going in the capacity of EOD/IED, and we have been together 9 years.


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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #81 on: October 08, 2007, 11:40:58 »
emmiee,
might I suggest that you try to contact a family support centre at the base your EOD type is stationed.
The family support centres are interconnected
Given the you are still married though living on opposite sides of the border, I must assume that you live nearby.
Through the Cdn family support centre you might be able to get an "in" to a US group...

It doesn't cost anything to ask...

Good luck!
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #82 on: October 08, 2007, 17:04:47 »
Thanks Geo, 

I will try what you suggested next time I'm there.  It is a 10 hour drive between where I am where he is located.

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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #83 on: October 08, 2007, 20:41:21 »
http://www.pmfrc.org/index-eng.htm

You should not need to do a physical visit.
Give em a call.....
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #84 on: October 09, 2007, 04:58:47 »
Thank  you again Geo, I will   :)
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #85 on: March 10, 2009, 01:21:37 »
This thread has not been active in awhile, but my son goes on his first tour to Afghanistan this month and I am looking to connect with people. Thanks.
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #86 on: March 10, 2009, 08:05:58 »
Not a problem Mom....
These guys are still around   http://www.mfrc-ncr.org/english/links_MFRCs.php
offices in Bagottville, St Hubert, St Jean & Valcartier (for the guys going over at this time)
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #87 on: March 10, 2009, 12:05:17 »
Thanks a lot. We live at the other end of the country, though. I am in touch with the MFRC locally. I was just looking here for other  English speaking families who may have soldiers who will be outside KAF.
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #88 on: March 10, 2009, 12:51:17 »
Oh... I'm sure that some will be along presently.
This forum is widely read from coast to coast - good luck
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #89 on: October 21, 2009, 09:14:52 »
Im engaged to a man who is serving proudly in Kaf. Seeing my dad go and come back twice, I figured this was going to be pretty easy for me to say goodbye and then wait patiently as he returns. WRONG!! Since he has been "in country" at KAF, he does call on a regular basis. but all he discusses is how soldiers are cheating on their wives, how wives are cheating on their husbands, how openly this has been agreeded upon with both parties. He has told me how female soldiers are basically stalking him (lol). I sometimes wonder if its better to just let him go, have his fun, and if he comes home to me, then get re-engaged. We do get an opportunity (20 minutes) to talk on the computer, and he does call, but recently he says the tower was blown out, so he calls from a land line which is timed. Has anyone faced this? Or am I blowing this completely out of porportion??
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #90 on: October 21, 2009, 09:24:52 »
It sounds to me like your fiance is doing his best to keep in touch with you, and is also doing his best to keep you informed of some of the stuff that is going on. At the same time, he's dealing not only with the stress of being deployed, but also the stress of having to deal with women trying to throw themselves at him. And he's coming to you, talking to you about it, so that you can help him deal with that. Letting him go "have his fun" sounds to me like the last thing that both you and he want.

Please, credit him with the fact that he's acknowledging these issues, instead of doing what some might do, and try to hide what is going on. He seems to be doing his best to keep in touch with you when he can. When you do get a chance to hear from him, do your best to reassure him that you both love him and trust him.
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #91 on: October 28, 2009, 05:19:53 »
jessica have you thought of talking to someone about this?  I mean someone via the Canadian Forces assistance program, or someone at the family support centre?  If you're to the point you're thinking, regardless of how seriously or not, of breaking up the engagement I suggest you speak to someone, it may help you sort things out.
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Re: How do the families cope during a tour? Tips and pointers for first timers.
« Reply #92 on: February 03, 2010, 16:36:07 »
Jessica,

I understand exactly since my boyfriend has told me about all that.
He will be deployed in november and of all the stress it might bring I do have to say this issue is primary to me.
We have talked about that and we will do it again.
So here come my advise, Talk with him, let him know how you feel but don't dramatize things. He's talking to you about it to me it's a mark of trust so return this trust to him...

Like others have said, go to a support group at the familly center it's so important to sort your feelings before he come's back home...

I wish you good luck and keep faith in him...

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