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Offline Buford001

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #50 on: November 20, 2005, 19:18:57 »
Hello,
Yes doing a hobby will help pass the time. How about scrapbooking you can do wonderful pages with pictures and journals. I am in the beginning of creating one. The MFRC is great to get to know people and they also have craft days for adults. Sitting around the table having coffee and cookies doing something crafty. The last one i attended we made shrinky dinks , something i did as a child but forgotten . It was fun and relaxing 2 hours.

Have you thought of going to the gym?

Have fun .

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #51 on: November 20, 2005, 20:15:35 »
Good idea, Diane!!

I totally forgot about the scrapbooking I did when hubby was gone! I also got into card making. Simple things that really do pass the time quickly, especially if you are busy making a small one up for your s/o... :) 
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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #52 on: November 20, 2005, 20:29:33 »
Well thank you Springroll,
I also do cards (embossed) for the last 9 years it was actually a hobby that turned into a business creating over 700 cards for Xmas season (can you say burn out, I owned and ran 3 businesses from home). I am just starting to scrapbook but feel i have creators block right now.lol But I am patient I know its not that difficult I journal everyday and i have over $5000 in supplies (papers, punches, cutters, stamps, etc..) I know it is going to be loads of fun .

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #53 on: November 20, 2005, 22:31:46 »
Don't forget because your significant other is away for more then 4 weeks, you're able to access deployment childcare if it's offerred on your base, as well as any other deployment events that are offered.  Take this time to try new things and join new groups.  This is a great time to learn new things, and I guarantee by the time he comes back you'll learn so many new things about yourself.

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #54 on: November 21, 2005, 06:22:20 »
Well thank you Springroll,
I also do cards (embossed) for the last 9 years it was actually a hobby that turned into a business creating over 700 cards for Xmas season (can you say burn out, I owned and ran 3 businesses from home). I am just starting to scrapbook but feel i have creators block right now.lol But I am patient I know its not that difficult I journal everyday and i have over $5000 in supplies (papers, punches, cutters, stamps, etc..) I know it is going to be loads of fun .

be well
Diane

I also started an at home business to help keep me busy and keep up my candle stocks..hehehe In the end, it was not the business for me, but it did keep me distracted from the loneliness, which was one of the big reasons for doing it.
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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #55 on: November 21, 2005, 20:20:02 »
Have you thought of going to the gym?

ha...pretty much all i do right now is: work...go to the gym....do housework...sleep....

i've always been very active and done lots of different activities....i always think though about how i want to make sure i am home for when he calls and when he does come home for a break how i want to spend all my time with him then....i know i will get used to this whole situation and i wont plan my life around him ALL the time...its just kinda hard to find the balance right now

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #56 on: November 23, 2005, 16:43:44 »
Wow, I remember this. My fiance just finished his BMQ this summer. I remember not wanting to leave home in case I missed a call. Got over that, though, when I realized I had to live my own life. You should try setting up a calling schedule, that way you won't be as worried about missing calls. Ours was (really early!) Sunday mornings.
I also did cards and scrapbooking! Too funny. I sent care packages of stuff I was working on, which my fiance loved. I also did a little booklet for him, with letters to open at the end of each week, explaining various thoughts on our life together and offering encouragement. And I worked out a lot as I was trying (and am now in) the army, too. I found that I rediscovered my own self as an individual. We've been together so long, that I had forgotten what and who I was without him, if that makes any sense. I'm stronger for it, but I also reaffirmed how much my fiance and our life together means to me. It gets easier, I promise.
I was actually most worried about my fiance coming home and the both of us having to readjust to life together, but my worries turned out to be nothing. Tons of us here know what you're going through, so write if you're ever feeling down.

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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #57 on: November 23, 2005, 18:43:55 »
All the girls said great things. There are so many options for support, it makes it lots of fun. I find I love both my friends whose hubbies just joined and those who are old pros at it. Sometimes those ladies have been through it enough times they have some great advice and tricks that really work. Mind you, I'm most likely listed as one of those who don't mind the separations.  ;D ::)
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Re: support for those who stay home...
« Reply #58 on: November 24, 2005, 19:49:48 »
hi everyone,
     I'm new here, I was actually looking around for some support/similar forums. I just wanted to say that reading these posts has made me feel better already. Since I don't live on a base or anywhere near one, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the whole world experiencing this. It was incredibly reassuring to read your stories about missing phone calls, because I can completely relate! My boyfriend has been in the Army for over a year now, and is about to go on his first tour.So, I'm not new to this situation, but I definitly wish I sought support sooner! This site has been very helpful, and I hope to get to know some of you in the future!

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« Reply #59 on: February 26, 2006, 11:29:59 »
So far I've completed BMQ and am currently in my last week of SQ.  All is "rollin" well. 

Easily, the most difficult part of both courses has been being away from my wife and three children.  I have been VERY fortunate in that, being from Ontario, I've been home almost every weekend that I've been granted leave.  Even the seven hour drive from ST. JEAN was worth it.  (when you're really home sick, it's no biggie). 

Having said that, I've found that getting home always seems to make returning on Monday pretty tuff.


Anyone have any coping strategies for separation from the family????
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« Reply #60 on: July 22, 2006, 23:32:49 »
Hey,

I'm going to St-Jean at the end of august, leaving my wife and kids (daughter: 9, son: 2) behind. I was wondering if there are some of you in the same situation with wives who would like to get in touch (through e-mail for instance) with other officer cadet's wives...might be good for their morale.

Leave me a PM if that's the case.
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Re: BMQ and seperation anxiety
« Reply #61 on: July 23, 2006, 09:12:02 »
I am headed to basic Aug 21st and I am a wife leaving behind my husband and my three kids, 11, 8 and 5.
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